So you’ve got her number, you might have sent a few text messages to each other, you know a little about her and what she likes. Great.
Now you’re at that crux where it’s time to decide whether you should carry on with the text chat or whether it makes more sense to make a call and have a good old chat on the phone. If you’re not overly confident with talking to girls, that first phone call can be really, really nerve-wracking. If you’re shyness of lack of confidence is getting that better of you, take a moment to remember that you’ve come this far, and it’s only a phone call.
So how DO you chat to a girl by phone?
You chat to a girl on the phone the same way as you’d chat to any of your other friends, is the simple answer – minus all the sport, gore, and tit chat of course. Though if the only phone calls you ever make are to your football buddies and drinking pals, that’s easier said than done.
The problem with giving advice on girls is that they’re all different; very different, and there are no hard and first rules to what every girl likes or what they think are acceptable topics to talk about, or how they’ll react to one thing or another – difficult, right?
Off on the Right Foot
Since you can’t control how your girl on the other end of the phone is going to react, the best thing you can do is to make sure that you’re prepared. If you’re nervous, or can’t think of anything to say then you could but in trouble but as long as you’re ready to lead the call and fill the gaps when she falls quiet you should be in good stead.
Chill out, listen to your favourite album, call a friend first, eat, drink, make sure no one is going to burst in on you when you’re mid-flow of conversation – or just pick the phone up and go for it.
Green Light Topics
If you’re worried that you’ll run out of things to say to your girl, start with things that already know she’s interested in like the TV shows she watched, the music she listens to, or where she hangs out. If things are going well the conversation will flow naturally from one place to the next - that would be perfect. In reality you might have to put a bit more effort in to keeping up the pace so be ready with a few witty one liners, funny stories, or anecdotes in case things fall quiet.