This age old question has been swimming around the realms of first date etiquette
since cave men ruled the earth. Well, maybe not quite that long but guys and
girls have been asking themselves ‘Should I kiss on the first date?’ at least
since granny met granddad. Those were the days of courting and chaperon, though.
Here in the 21st century, there aren’t so many dating rules to follow, we’re all
master of our own domain and ruler of our own bodies.
For more traditional types though, kissing on the first date can feel like giving
too much away too quickly. There’s really no straight forward answer as to
whether you should have a little kiss on the first date, it really just depends
on how the date is going. Here are a few pointers to gauge whether you should or
shouldn’t kiss on the first date.
In the girl's head
Girls are complicated, no doubt about it. That’s why there have been hundreds of
rule books written on how to date a girl, how to keep a girl happy, and ‘what
the hell is she thinking!?’
Almost right throughout your date, she’s thinking ‘does my hair look alright?’,
‘does he like my dress?’, and ‘am I talking too much?’
She’s also thinking ‘IS IT OKAY TO KISS ON THE FIRST DATE?’ Now any good girl’s
mother has told her that she should never let a guy put his lips near hers on
the first date. It has been drummed into her head through some ancient dating
rule book that only harlots and hussies go in for a kiss after just one dinner
date. So sadly guys, it seems the ball is in your court; over to you to do the
In the guy's head
Guys, by genetics are much simpler. Everything comes down to primal instinct,
what they can see and what they can get out of their date.
What’s going through his head during the date is more like ‘wow, she looks really
good tonight’, ‘huh, did she just say something again? Missed it’ and ‘I wonder
when I’ll get to kiss her’.
The fundamental difference is that guys are encouraged to go out and do the
chasing, lead the ways and get the best girl. It would seem guys, that if there
is any kissing to be done on the first date, it will down to you to initiate it.
So when do I go in for a first date kiss?
The short answer is; when it feels natural. The tricky bit is trying to read her
body language. Though, if she is clamping a hand tightly over her face as you go
in for the kill, it should be pretty clear that she does not want to kiss you.