Arranging a first date can be tricky business and a little bit daunting if it is your first adventure into the big wide world of dating. If you’re a guy it’s traditional for you to ask for the date, plan the date, and to make sure your girl has an awesome time. For girls, the shoe is on the other foot, you have to rely on the guy to choose the right place.
There’s no shame in taking first date advice though, here are some first date tips from you to get to grips with so that, whether you’re a guy or a girl, you know what to do on your first date.
It’s all about the backdrop
This first date tip is so important. The place or activity that you choose for your first date forms the whole foundation of your date. By the time you get to the first date stage, you should have already spent some time chatting on the phone. Unless you haven’t been listening, you should have picked up some information about what your date is interested in and where they like to hang out. First time around, it might be better to ask if there is anywhere in particular that your date might like to go.
That’s how I roll
If there’s any way to guarantee that you won’t get to The Second Date stage, it’s making a fool of yourself on the first date. The most reliable way to make sure you come across as best you can on the first date is to be yourself. Yes, it might sound like a cliché or obvious advice but trying to act in a different way to what comes naturally is just not cool. It will make you look awkward and you might have to keep the pretence up next time around if you do manage to get a second date and that would be exhausting.
Restrained, not strained
Conversation is the key to making a first date successful. Awkward silences are like the death bells of the datinConversation is the key to making a first date successful. Awkward silences are
like the death bells of the dating world. Your
conversation should flow easily but should also work both ways. Now for someone
who is naturally shy, chatting a way without a care in the world is easier said
than done. If you’re struggling for something to say; ask a question. People
love talking bout themselves and their answers should make it easier for the
conversation to move forward.
Unplanned excitement or to get a second date, it sort of defeats the object of dating. Just go with the flow, try to be attuned to your date, and watch out for signs that she is having a good time. When it comes it some to the end of the date, do what feels natural. If you want to go on to a club and she seems up for it too, then go for it. If you know that she has to be up early the next morning, go off home and leave the club until next time.
So now you’re equipped with some first dates and you know what to do on a first date, you’re all set to get chatting.